These rules exist for one reason: people write things here they have not said anywhere else. Intense pain and anger are understandable and welcome. They do not excuse treating another member badly.
Respectful disagreement is welcome, including disagreement about reconciliation. Everything in this list is not.
Some posts need more than a moderation decision. Content involving self-harm, domestic violence, child safety, criminal activity, or immediate danger is escalated to a senior moderator straight away. We respond by displaying crisis and emergency resources, contacting the member privately where appropriate, and preserving or removing material as safety requires.
What we cannot do is intervene in an emergency. Nobody monitors this site around the clock, and a post may not be read for hours. If someone is in danger now, contact emergency services or a crisis line in your country instead of posting.
Moderators and administrators hold role-based permissions and act under one published process. Members normally receive a clear reason for any action, unless explaining it would create a safety, security, or privacy risk for someone.
A short private note pointing to the guideline in question. Most situations end here.
Recorded on the account, with the specific guideline and the change we need to see.
Posting, messaging, or a particular forum is paused for a defined period.
Account access is paused. The reason and duration are given unless doing so creates a risk.
Reserved for serious or repeated harm. Appeals are reviewed by a second moderator.
Every one of these actions is written to an audit trail that administrators can review. To appeal a decision, use the contact form and choose “Account assistance”; a second moderator reviews the case.
Contact the moderation teamThe following are working drafts written for this community. They must be reviewed by an appropriately qualified attorney before public launch, and the existence of a page is not a claim of legal compliance.
Membership is for adults aged 18 and over who accept these guidelines. You keep ownership of what you write and grant us permission to display it within the community. Accounts may be restricted or removed for breaching the guidelines. The service is provided as peer support without warranty of any kind, and access may be suspended for maintenance, safety, or legal reasons. This is a working draft pending review by a qualified attorney before public launch.
We collect the minimum needed to run a safe community: a screen name, an email address for verification and notifications, a password we store only as a secure hash, and the content you choose to post. Email addresses are never displayed and never shared with other members. Administrators may review a reported private message when investigating a safety report, and every such access is logged in an audit record. You may export your account data or request deletion at any time from your account page. Retention periods are published and applied consistently. This is a working draft pending attorney review.
We use only cookies necessary to keep you signed in securely and to remember your display preferences. We use privacy-respecting analytics that do not build advertising profiles or track you across other websites. You can clear or block cookies in your browser, though signing in will not work without the session cookie. This is a working draft pending attorney review.
Post only what you have written or have the right to share. Quote briefly and attribute clearly rather than reproducing whole articles or chapters. Everything on this site — its name, mark, structure, guidelines, and Recovery Library — is original work created for Support After Infidelity. If you believe material here infringes your rights, use the contact form and we will investigate promptly.
Support After Infidelity is a peer-support community offering general educational information. It does not provide and does not replace professional counselling, medical treatment, mental-health care, legal representation, individualised financial advice, law enforcement, or emergency assistance. Members share personal experience only. Always obtain advice about your own circumstances from an appropriately qualified professional.
We aim to meet WCAG 2.2 AA. That means large readable type, strong colour contrast, full keyboard navigation, visible focus indicators, screen-reader landmarks and labels, descriptive form errors, alt text for meaningful images, generously sized controls, respect for reduced-motion settings, and layouts that never require horizontal scrolling on a phone or tablet. If any part of the site is difficult to use with your assistive technology, tell us through the contact form and we will treat it as a fault to fix.
To request removal of content about you, use the contact form and choose “Privacy request”. Support After Infidelity is a peer-support community and does not replace professional counselling, medical treatment, legal representation, law enforcement, emergency assistance, or individualised financial advice.
